You know that feeling, right? The one where you’re explaining, defending, almost pleading your case for something you’re doing (or not doing)? Like wanting to be a graphic designer in the age of AI. Someone raises an eyebrow, “But can’t AI just generate that image for you now?” And immediately, you launch into the whole “AI can never truly understand human nuance!” speech.
It reminds me of a job that once existed: the lift operator. Yes, for real! You’d step into an elevator, and there’d be a person sitting on a stool, ready to press the button for your desired floor. Sounds ancient, right? I bet when automated lifts came along, even that lift operator had their justifications ready: “But what if the sensors fail? People will still need me!” Guess what? They’re now… well, obsolete.
This isn’t about shaming anyone, but about a crucial pause. If you’re constantly having to justify an action, it’s a big, flashing yellow light. It could mean one of two things:
- You’re not entirely convinced yourself.
Deep down, a part of you might be whispering, “Is this really a good idea?” Your elaborate justifications are less about convincing others and more about quashing that inner doubt. You’re trying to validate your choices (or lack thereof) to yourself, even if they’re shaky. Like when you skip exercising and mumble about “no time” or “too much work.” Is it really no time, or are you just not prioritizing it?
- The other person simply isn’t on your wavelength.
And honestly, that’s okay. Not everyone needs to understand your journey, your choices, or your reasons. If you know, deep in your gut, that what you’re doing is right for you—if it aligns with your values, your goals, your peace of mind—then why spend precious energy trying to get someone else to “get it”?
So, what’s the move here? It’s surprisingly simple, like most profound truths.
If you’re the one doubting: Just pause. Take a moment. Is this truly what you want? Is it serving you, or are you just going through the motions, armed with a ready-made excuse? If it’s something you know you should be doing but aren’t (like finally starting that side hustle, or, you know, actually exercising), then perhaps it’s time to shut up and do it. The action will speak louder than any justification ever could.
If they’re the ones not getting it: Stop justifying. Seriously. It’s not your job to give a TED Talk on your life choices. Respectfully acknowledge their perspective (or don’t), and then quietly, confidently, get down to business. Your results, your peace, your progress—these are the only justifications you ever need.
Because at the end of the day, a life lived with conviction needs no elaborate defence. It just is.
0
20